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ladyofastolat ([personal profile] ladyofastolat) wrote2013-07-10 08:43 am
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Swimming

I can't swim. The reason is quite obvious to me. Neither of my parents can swim, so I was never brought up to be happy in water. They didn't want me to be like them, so they did send me to swimming lessons when I was 8 or so, but then I'd already had 8 years listening to my Mum's terror of water. "You can never trust water!" is one of her most common sayings. She won't say, "Oh, look at that lovely babbling brook!" just, "Oh no! Step away! There might be a flash flood!"

I had a series of lessons, but in the end, the teacher threw me out of class. "I wash my hands of her," he said. "She can swim, but thinks she can't." Looking back at it, this seems quite shocking to me. I hope it wouldn't happen nowadays, and that children like me are given the help they need to build up their confidence, and aren't cast out in shame. He was on to something, though. In Primary School swimming lessons, my teacher noted that I could swim (well, sort of; it was a frenzied doggy paddle, since I didn't want to risk getting my face wet) when wearing flat armbands that I thought had air in them, but couldn't swim without them. She found this quite amusing, but didn't follow it up.

We had swimming lessons at secondary school (aargh, those memories of easing my painful way into that hideously cold outdoor pool!) and the teacher was similarly unsympathetic. (Not surprising, this. This was the same teacher who snapped to my Mum, "she's an intelligent girl; of course she can play hockey.") She once decreed that nobody could go to lunch until I'd swum a width, and made the whole impatient class watch as I flailed in my desperate doggy paddle, half my upper body out of the water. I did my width, but it certainly didn't fill me with any desire to ever get in a swimming pool ever again.

I remember being on the Arthurian North Wales pilgrimage in 1993. It was gorgeous weather, and we all went down to the beach at Harlech. Everyone else ran out on the long sands, into the shallowly sloping water, and out into the distance, to swim under the blue sky. My fellow non-swimmer and I stood watching them, and both said that this was the first time in years that we wished we could swim. I almost felt the same yesterday, when having lunch down on Ryde Sands, a similarly shallowly sloping beach.

Maybe I should try to learn to swim. Pellinor keeps offering to teach me, but the trouble is, when you can't swim, you're not used to wearing a swimming costume - I don't possess one - or appearing in public wearing one. Society decrees that as a woman, I'd have to shave myself in annoying places. I'd have to learn in a public place, where everyone else would see my desperate flailing. I shudder at the memory of the horrible cold of it, and the smell. There's just so many reasons (excuses?) not to. But maybe I should...

[identity profile] thecatsamuel.livejournal.com 2013-07-10 08:02 am (UTC)(link)
but it's lovely once you're in...

more seriously, round here there are adults only lessons and even one to one coaching which should be less scary.

I hated sport at school and only discovered I liked and was good at it when I went to university. ho hum.

[identity profile] ladyofastolat.livejournal.com 2013-07-10 11:13 am (UTC)(link)
I know loads of people who hated PE at school, but have ended up doing at least some "PE" activities for pleasure in adult life. It's really not a good advert for school PE lessons. But, then, I've also talked to lots of people who hated history at school, but have really got into it since then, by way of TV, novels, family history or whatever, so it's not a problem unique to PE.

I'll take a look and find out what adult only classes are offered locally - although I'm certainly not committing to anything yet!

[identity profile] wellinghall.livejournal.com 2013-07-10 05:55 pm (UTC)(link)
When I went to a new school at 14, I skipped games and PE for the first term, and went to the library and read. Classmates started saying "He must be in another group" at first, because they thought I was; then carried on saying it to cover for me. I did the same thing for the second term. Summer was swimming and cricket, and I didn't mind those so much, so I did them.

Next year, same thing; library. This worked all through the autumn term, and half way through the spring term, when I was found out. The teacher I was sent to talked to me sensibly, found out that I didn't mind swimming, and I was allowed to do this on my own for the rest of that term.

Sixth form, and games / PE became optional; so I did cricket in the summer terms, and that was it.